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Friday, June 03, 2005

Kindness Went and Got a Face...

Having just returned from 2 days at a wake and funeral, I just heard news that Cory Rudl, a well-known marketer whose presence and knowledge was a big part of many marketer's every day lives, died from injuries in an amateur car racing accident:

Newsclip about Cory Rudl

I was not friends with him, but a lot of people were and apparently, behind the veneer of his marketing persona, he was a very well-liked guy who lived life to its fullest.

Also, Priya Shah just notified the marketing community that her beloved husband of 18 years died of a suddent heart attack.

(you may leave a kind word here):
http://marketingslave.com

I've added this very paragraph *after* this post was originally published. I read a little more about Priya's huband, from Priya herself, warm condolences of personal acquaintances, and have seen a picture of her husband's heart-warming smile. He has a look that says, "true friend to anyone and everyone." I could be wrong, but I have never been wrong about this sort of thing before. Here is his photograph so you can see for yourself:

Priya's husband, Sagar
Annie's Song
Priya's Husband, SagarAnnie's Song
(Click on the beating hearts to hear a song he would sing to her.)

Reality always intrudes on our best dreams, though, doesnt it?

We seem to go along with our heads down, noses to the grindstone and then, "Wham." the unthinkable happens. And it got a friend and I thinking about what it would be like for our loved ones if we died suddenly? Would our notes, etc, be in order so that loved ones could continue to reap the benefits of our efforts? This is a topic I shall write more on later, but it needs to be addressed as to what steps we can take to ensure our online labors are not lost forever from our loved ones when our life on earth ends.

As stated in the letter to my list members, Napoleon Hill wrote:

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit. "

I realize this is of no immediate comfort to one who is overwhelmed with grief, but after we regain our composure, we can make a goodwill effort to turn our attention to focus on the many things for which we still have to be grateful. And it is my experience that doing so is more than just a mere exercise, but really does serve as a powerful ally in chasing away the blues.

Please post a comment about any benefits you have realized in spite of a tragedy, something that turns out to be wonderful despite it's inception in an otherwise uncomfortable event.

If something occurs to you, then please just take a moment to tell others of the things you have to be grateful for, and the joy they bring you. Please...it'll be good medicine, and I'll administer the first dose. :-)

I am grateful for my health.
I am also grateful for my family and my loads of really great nephews and nieces.
I am grateful for being passionate about something.
I am grateful that I am able to be of service to others in various ways.
I am grateful for fresh air, clean water and a sound mind that grows stronger and sounder each day.

Blessings and peace to all,
Sam


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15 comments:

Coach Confessions said...

I spent last weekend at a seminar in Toronto ON, and Cory's name came up ... and what was said about him was "That guy knows how to fully live life!"

I write in my Gratitude journal daily - 10 each day to be exact - and those include those "little things" as well.
Doing this keeps you "in check" with what really matters.

Today, I will include that I'm grateful for having the opportunity to learn from Cory this past year and a half.

Namaste!
April

Janet said...

I am grateful to have Sam as a friend, I appreciated the compassionate way I received the news of Cory's untimely departure, a man that will be sadly missed by many.

I personaly was shocked by the news. Behind the online world is a real person. We are truly a global family. I am grateful to be able to share in this experience.

Paul Inglis said...

Sometimes it's difficult getting my head around something negative happening to me, but lately, within any unfortunate occurance I somehow remember to stop and see if there are lessons to be learnt here.

When a lesson immediately springs to mind it's quite a nice surprise, however, it'll usually come to me later on when I'm not thinking about it anymore.

Have you noticed how, if we don't actually learn something from any lessons revealed, the next time it comes around it seems to get harsher each time?

So, instead of thinking "HEY! Why does this 'bad luck' always happen to me?" I've decided to act in a positive attitude by creating my own luck.

In fact an acronym for luck should be:
Learning
Under
Controlled
Knowledge

These life lessons we all see day-in and day-out can be so easily aken for granted.

Feeling EXTREMELY grateful for the 'net because it brings a FANTASTIC group of individuals together. I am very fortunate to be part of web because I may never have had the pleasure of meeting such awesome people otherwise.

Thanks for being there guys!
('specially you Sam!)

Respectfully,
Paul

The Raggedy Man said...

The face of kindness is the most beautiful face I know. The the face of Pasar truly has that beauty radiating from it. Thanks for posting about the passing of this good man.

I appreciate your comment about the value of getting business affiars in order so that our loved ones may benefit from our work, in case of our untimely passing on. Great call to action!

Your invitation for us to share "benefits you have realized in spite of a tragedy" got me thinking. Sometimes our perception on something is what makes that difference. Although on a much smaller scale, this was the subject of my post on my personal blog yesterday morning (June 14th - www.fogclearing.blogspot.com).

And thanks for the gratitude list. I too am grateful for being passionate about something. It gives 'life' to my life. I find that real passion is vital to a happy, fulfilling life, and so many seem to suffer from lack of it.

Thank you for you thoughts.

A loyal reader,

Sam Freedom said...

Thank you all for contributing so far. It is a real blessing when the wises parts of us have the opportunity to speak. Did you know that unless conditions are right, they sit in the background waiting - not saying anything - just watching and loving, and ever ready to minister to you at precisely the moment an occasion arises.

Raggedy Man, you should be pinging the blog engines. You're writing is excellent and honest, both rare and in great need.

pingomatic.com and
feedburner.com for starters.

Thanks again to all,
Sam

The Raggedy Man said...

Sam, your feedback about my writing blows me away. I hadn't thought of making my blog available to a wider audience on purpose.

If I am to do as you suggest, I have a lot to learn. Pinging? How, and why?

I looked up the references you gave, but I see I need more instruction on the mechanics. I'm beginning from a pre-'A' position.

It's obvious to me I've been living in a different world than you do. You speak as an Olympic diver would to someone who just learned there is a 'pool'.

And yes, I often tune into 'The Savage Nation.' I listen, head nodding, as long as I can bear the insanity. I am unacquainted with Simon, however. Introductions?

Thanks again, Sam - for your acknowledgement, your encouragement, and for your invitation. I will keep in touch.

Olga said...

Hi Sam,

What a surprise. I saw your posts at HowToCorp forum, and you always were a... cynic, I'd say even the cynic there, I felt lucky when you didn't call me a spammer. ;)

But here you show a completely different side of yours, and it's so nice... and beautiful.

What are your passions, if it's not a secret? I, too, am grateful for sky and sea, passions and thoughts, love and business. Don't put your cynical mask, please. ;)

Feeling blessed for meeting such people (really),
Olga.

Sam Freedom said...

Raggedy Man wrote:

"Sam, your feedback about my writing blows me away. I hadn't thought of making my blog available to a wider audience on purpose."

Sorry it's been so long in the reply. I'll send a book to you to help you understand more about getting your blog out there. Important to find other bloggers you relate to and exchange links with them.

"If I am to do as you suggest, I have a lot to learn. Pinging? How, and why? I looked up the references you gave, but I see I need more instruction on the mechanics. I'm beginning from a pre-'A' position."

http://www.pingomatic.com Good to go there and submit your blog and revisit the link they give you each time you make a new post. This is a good start.

"It's obvious to me I've been living in a different world than you do. You speak as an Olympic diver would to someone who just learned there is a 'pool'."

In my father's mansion are many rooms. We might seem to live in different worlds yet here we are in conversation. As for speaking to you as if you have just discovered there's a pool, you've heard of 'total immersion'? It has it's benefits as long as you know ahead of time that you won't have the usual hooks to grab onto and that it's going to be awkward fo a while. As long as the atmosphere remains non-judgemental, eventually you start picking things up.

"And yes, I often tune into 'The Savage Nation.' I listen, head nodding, as long as I can bear the insanity. I am unacquainted with Simon, however. Introductions?"

You mentioned Simon Cowling from "American Idol" in one of your posts.

"Thanks again, Sam - for your acknowledgement, your encouragement, and for your invitation. I will keep in touch."

You're welcome!

"Olga said...
Hi Sam,

What a surprise. I saw your posts at HowToCorp forum, and you always were a... cynic, I'd say even the cynic there, I felt lucky when you didn't call me a spammer. ;)"

Spammer. ;-) There, have I redeemed my cynical reputation?

"But here you show a completely different side of yours, and it's so nice... and beautiful."

Thank you, Olga. It's an expression of your higher self.

"What are your passions, if it's not a secret? I, too, am grateful for sky and sea, passions and thoughts, love and business. Don't put your cynical mask, please. ;)"

Ok, since you asked. I'm passionate about seduction. If you can withstand the immediacy of the negative connotation, you'll find that it's fascinating, indeed. It includes, but is not limited to, the nefarious escapades with which one is taught to associate it.

Seduction itself is just a force. And like any force, results come down to the proficiency of the wielder. A mature, learned seducer will bring folks to a better place within themselves, and then there are children who have discovered the power of a hypnotic phrase or two.

"Feeling blessed for meeting such people (really),
Olga."

It's mutual and now to keep the flame alive... ;-)

Thank you for your kind words, Olga.

Sam

Olga said...

"Sam said...
...will bring folks to a better place within themselves, and then there are children who have discovered the power of a hypnotic phrase or two."

Wow... brilliant. Exactly the phrase I was ready for, exactly when I'm writing a salescopy. I heard before, you know, "bad copywriters sell features, better copywriters sell benefits and best copywriters sell dreams", but what you've said, is so much more precise.

:) Actually I think, I _attracted_ that your phrase by the angle I've decided to give to my salescopy.

Have you read Seth Godin's "All Marketers Are Liars?" I don't quite like his "lie" story, but I saw there something that directed me to an epiphany on the salescopy approach.

And more about seducers: did you see lovemarks? Go here:
http://www.saatchikevin.com/talkingit/promo.html

Even though it can be a bit like that "children" approach since it may talk a little more on more practical ways to seduce, but still, I think, if you connect it to what you think, may get an explosion. :)

About house cleaning, I'd recommend you to get books by Don Aslett and take Flylady's approach. It helps me tremendously.

About my "higher self", did you listen to Mike Dooley's (tut.com) "Infinite Possibilities?" I love them!! I love to listen to its CD#6 in the morning, when I'm half-sleeping. ;) Sets the mind right for the day, helps to eliminate procrastination and at all feel well.

About pingomatic, one little tip. Since you enter there your blog URL, and they submit to feed directories as well (as My.Yahoo, for example, although I recommend to ping My.Yahoo separately), they then take your feed URL from autodiscovery tags. So before you enter your blog URL there, make sure you got the autodiscovery tags right.

If you don't know how (and you, Sam, don't have them right in your blog page), take my report on http://rss-submission-service.com
you may unsubscribe immediately after that. ;)

I hope our friendship only gets stronger.

Best,
Olga.

Moon Dancing Nana said...

This is interesting. Most of us did not know Cory personally, however we know of his work ethics. Can the same be said of us? Or our personal ethics. We are defined by not what we say but how we live our life. We can say anything but our actions need to back it up. My life has been changed forever by an accident I experienced in 1973-married and a mother of 3 young children. I was the victim of hit and run while on a bicycle...we lived in the country and thought what a safe place to raise our children. I was left for dead. My face was gone as were some of my teeth. Click forward. As a result of my experience we adopted children with disabilities. One of our sons had lived in the hospital for 14 months because of his facial deformity and he had a tracheostomy and a gastrostomy. (A tube to breath and a tube to eat through). He is now 26 years old and his face/trach/g-tube are still there. He has had many surgeries and when he was 16 asked the doctors to stop. He cannot have his face repaired without suffering serious neurological reprecussions. Is he happy? With is face, yes. His one desire is to work and not live on SSI. Very few places consider him for employment-he also suffered loss of some IQ points because of a nursing error.

I taught my children-your heart/actions/thoughts/words and deed will define you. We lost two of the children we adopted to their birth defects. Lessons learned-each day is the only day you have to live. Make the most of it. At the moment we have two 18 year olds at home. One is mentally ill and the other son has spina bifida in a wheelchair and would like to go into sports medicine. Now you see why I want to make a residual income online. I must stay home with the kids and my accident did not leave me without problems-I talk 100 miles a minute and tend to get side tracked trying to learn how to do ANYTHING online. HTML???? Forget it. Right now I'm trying to figure out how to join Search estates......sorry this is so long.

Venus said...

There is truth in what you speak, Sam ...

Venus said...

Thank you for your visit, Sam.

Living within walking distance of the beach ... something I once knew, but sacrifice to be where I am today :-)

I am 2 hours due west from the nearest beach, having dominion over birds that nest in old trees. The nearest body of water is a 1700-acre reservoir--and it's beautiful every day I see it :-)

Irene said...

Haven't read this post for a while. Nice to see some of the folks from IB here. Even though Sam is known for saying it like he sees it, especially with the marketing stuff. (should actually be essential reading for marketing newbies - but most would probably disregard until they got to know him)Nor does he suffer fools gladly. Not to mention the man does good work (probably good deeds too). While this is posted as a Internet Marketing Controversy Blog, it's nice to see some of Sam's softer side too. (& never mind posting those 'muscle man' pics) Thanks Sam, Irene

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